- Updated: 20 February 2017
… and for Presidents Day we are celebrating the life of Donna Maxine Danby, better known as “Grandma.” This will be the California memorial and the Ohio funeral and burial is still to come. While it may sound like a lot of work, I will tell you that she had most of the work completed about 10 years ago. And that is worth more than I can tell you… but I’m going to try.
There is a Frontline program that has aired called “Being Mortal.” I’ve seen it and can say that I highly recommend it for the bridge it provides between the general healthcare field and the field of hospice and palliative care. Unfortunately, “hospice” is considered “giving up” or “losing the fight” rather than providing comfort and pain management during the inevitable end of life journey for too many in the healthcare industry. The more advanced we’ve become at keeping people alive, the less considerate we’ve become of people’s wishes at the end of their lives. This is one reason that I highly recommend having an advanced directive for healthcare, which Grandma had.
There is a worksheet called FIVE WISHES that serves as a legal document (in most states). It can be obtained from Aging with Dignity at www.agingwithdignity.org or by calling (888)594-7437. I will be going through this with Lisa soon and then sharing it with the girls. When our loved ones know what our wishes are, and they are in writing, it makes it a whole lot easier to get through the initial grief of bidding farewell to them when they die. Typical of my Grandma, it was her unselfish thoughtfulness that has made celebrating her life relatively hassle-free.
Being proactive about our “end-of-life” journey is just smart. Take a lesson from Grandma and put in writing your wishes. You will be doing your loved ones a great favor!
For His glory,